The Winterfood Diaries

The Winterfood Diaries

Wednesday, 14 November 1990

Questions of Sex and Intimacy

‘Hong Kong Garden’ – Siouxsie and the Banshees

I’ve seen yet another person I’ve not seen for ages!  Today it was Monica Roseman, with whom I used to sit on the College bus in early 1987.  She was with her husband and her kid – and she looks pregnant again!
Tonight, I recorded the fourth track for the Situation/Berwin Christmas album (even though it’ll be the album opener).  The track was ‘I Wish It Could Be Christmas Every Day’, with double-tracked Berwin vocals and double-tracked backing vocals (all by me), dubbed over the Wizzard track with new and filthy lyrics.
‘Can’t Be Sure’ – The Sundays

But, WOW!  On TV, they’re talking about the difference between ‘intimacy’ and ‘sexual activity’.  Someone was saying that he was a sexual addict, i.e. they’d have sex with a partner but not feel at all intimate.  What struck me the most was when they said that after sex their first feeling is to want to move on to the next big thrill; wanting the next big sexual buzz – like a drug.  Some experts have been suggesting that to some people, sex an intimacy are two very different things.  Which is exactly what I’ve found out in life!  I feel a great gulf between love (which seems to me to be pure and intimate and caring and total) and sex (which is a lustful and ideally very positively dirty act, gratuitous and greedy).  I wish I could just combine the two and settle down; get serious.
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